What is Marriage Oneness?

Chad’s sermon notes

Mal 2:15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.

Mal 2:14 Yet ye say ,Wherefore ?Because the LORD <Y@hovah> hath been witness  between thee and the wife  of thy youth ,against whom thou hast dealt treacherously :yet is she thy companion ,and the wife  of thy covenant .

Mal 2:15 And did not Y@hovah make one? Yet had Y@hovah the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That Y@hovah might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.


 English Words used in KJV:

remnant 11                     rest 10                        residue 4

—Strong’s Talking Greek & Hebrew Dictionary

Before we can draw any conclusions on what is being said about residue of the spirit lets bring a few more verses into our thinking.

 Ge 2:7 And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.

Job 27:3 All the while my breath is in me, and the spirit of God is in my nostrils;

Ec 12:7 Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was: and the spirit shall return unto God who gave it.

Joh 20:21 Then said Jesus to them again, Peace be unto you: as my Father hath sent me, even so send I you.
22 And when he had said this, he breathed on them, and saith unto them, Receive ye the Holy Ghost:

Mal 2:15 And did not Y@hovah make one? Yet had Y@hovah the residue of the spirit.

God wasn’t limited to making just one couple. His Spirit wasn’t used exhaustively so as to be limited in his creation of people. He had the ability to make as many people as He wished. So the question is asked. Why one married couple?

 And wherefore one? That Y@hovah might seek a godly seed.

Therefore take heed to your spirit,

To understand one flesh marriage, you must first understand that this one flesh, found in Ge 2:24 (Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh) is more than just Adam and Eve. This one flesh includes Adam and Eve’s covenant partners. Who is Adams Father? We know it’s Y@hovah>  <‘elohiym> our triune God. Same with Eve? Her covenant partners are the same as Adams.

 and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.

Why does He say this? The one flesh marriage relationship you have with your wife reflects, the oneness you have not just with her but with God.

You see in the garden Adam and Eve were not just one with each other but one with God as well, because God had breathed into them the breath of His life.

So as we look into this second purpose of marriage we can see that it gets into what kind of relationship God wants with us. When we say we have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, do we know how it is that he wants to have relationship? Or do we just place our standards of relationship into this personal relationship?

  Ge 2:7 And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.

Ge 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

You see that Adam and Eve were not only one with God but had God’s identity. This is still what God seeks to have with us today, a personal intimate relationship, that can be identified, because it has His identity.

To understand this oneness we have to look at how God restored it in the Abrahamic covenant. I say restored because the oneness He shared in the garden with Adam and Eve was broken.

 9 And the LORD God called unto Adam, and said unto him, Where art thou? Gen 3:9 (KJV)

An all-knowing God had to know where they were so when He said  Where art thou? Can you hear the loneliness?

Ge15:7 And he said unto him, I am the LORD that brought thee out of Ur of the Chaldees, to give thee this land to inherit it. 8 And he said, Lord GOD, whereby shall I know that I shall inherit it? 9 And he said unto him, Take me an heifer of three years old, and a she goat of three years old, and a ram of three years old, and a turtledove, and a young pigeon. 10 And he took unto him all these, and divided them in the midst, and laid each piece one against another: but the birds divided he not. 11 And when the fowls came down upon the carcases, Abram drove them away.
Do you see here that what God has asked Abram to do fits the description of the word covenant.

from <H1262> (barah) (in the sense of cutting [like <H1254> (bara’)]); a compact (because made by passing between pieces of flesh) :- confederacy, [con-]feder[-ate], covenant, league.

—Strong’s Talking Greek & Hebrew Dictionary

This bloody passageway could also be argued to represent the birth canal and the beginning of a new life. (Mike Breen, Covenant and Kingdom)When two parties enter into covenant the leader of each party and the party would stand at each end of the flesh divided into two. Then the leader or chief of each party would pass through the divided flesh getting blood on their feet and the bottom of their garments. So the chief of party A would end up standing with party B and the chief of party B would end up standing with party A and then they would become one party not two. They had to give up their old identity.
Jer 34:18 And I will give the men that have transgressed my covenant, which have not performed the words of the covenant which they had made before me, when they cut the calf in twain, and passed between the parts thereof,
19 The princes of Judah, and the princes of Jerusalem, the eunuchs, and the priests, and all the people of the land, which passed between the parts of the calf;
20 I will even give them into the hand of their enemies, and into the hand of them that seek their life: and their dead bodies shall be for meat unto the fowls of the heaven, and to the beasts of the earth.
In making the covenant, they agree that if the covenant is broken then they will become like the animal whose blood they passed through. You don’t hear about this in divorce court? “Judge, I agreed to be cut in two if this covenant didn’t work.” If we actually took marriage this seriously we wouldn’t jump in so easily.
12 And when the sun was going down, a deep sleep fell upon Abram; and, lo, an horror of great darkness fell upon him.
My bet is that Abram realized the gravity of this covenant with God. Can yo see Abram thinking what have I gotten myself into? This is serious business, what if I fail? So then we see God comfort him in this area.
 13 And he said unto Abram, Know of a surety that thy seed shall be a stranger in a land that is not theirs, and shall serve them; and they shall afflict them four hundred years; 14 And also that nation, whom they shall serve, will I judge: and afterward shall they come out with great substance. 15 And thou shalt go to thy fathers in peace; thou shalt be buried in a good old age. 16 But in the fourth generation they shall come hither again: for the iniquity of the Amorites is not yet full. Gen 15:12-16 (KJV)
A promise that Abram won’t end up like the animals divided for the covenant. He will live to a good old age. God wants you to succeed in covenant relationship; it’s better than the alternative.

17 And it came to pass, that, when the sun went down, and it was dark, behold a smoking furnace, and a burning lamp that passed between those pieces. 18 In the same day the LORD made a covenant with Abram, saying, Unto thy seed have I given this land, from the river of Egypt unto the great river, the river Euphrates: 19 The Kenites, and the Kenizzites, and the Kadmonites, 20 And the Hittites, and the Perizzites, and the Rephaims, 21 And the Amorites, and the Canaanites, and the Girgashites, and the Jebusites.
Gen 15:7-21 (KJV)

I like what Spurgeon says about the smoking furnace and burning lamp: “This symbolized the history of the chosen seed: the furnace of affliction with its darkening smoke is often theirs, but the lamp of God’s salvation is never removed from them.

3. The passing of these between the pieces was the confirming of the covenant God now made with him, that he might have strong consolation, being fully persuaded that what God promised he would certainly perform. It is probable that the furnace and lamp, which passed between the pieces, burnt and consumed them, and so completed the sacrifice, and testified God’s acceptance of it, as of Gideon’s (Jg 6:21), Manoah’s (Jg 13:19,20), and Solomon’s, 2Ch 7:1. So it intimates,”

This story does not end here. God seeks to give us His identity, beyond just being made in his image.

Just like a Son who becomes one with his wife and becomes husband not son.

Just like a daughter who takes on a new identity in her husband by taking his last name. Her old identity dies, and a new identity in her husband is built.

For Abram though, leaving his old identity behind meant he left the curse of the fall behind him. This symbolic death gave Abram a new life with a new identity.

Let’s step back for a moment first and identify who is in this covenant.

BBE version

Ex 6:2 And God said to Moses, I am Yahweh:
Ex 6:3 I let myself be seen by Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, as God, the Ruler of all; but they had no knowledge of my name Yahweh.
Ex 6:6 Say then to the children of Israel, I am Yahweh, and I will take you out from under the yoke of the Egyptians, and make you safe from their power, and will make you free by the strength of my arm after great punishments.
Ex 6:8 And I will be your guide into the land which I made an oath to give to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob; and I will give it to you for your heritage: I am Yahweh.
 Ps 83:18 So that men may see that you only, whose name is Yahweh, are Most High over all the earth.

From Covenant and Kingdom (Mike Breen) P29

 A new identity called for a new name. Both Abram and Sarai were renamed by God. In giving them new names, the Lord did something extraordinary. He took letters from his own name yahweh and gave one to each. In Hebrew, only the consonants are recorded, so Yahweh is written YHWH. (The vowels ae added in speach as the text is read aloud.) God took his two H’s and gave one each to Abram and Sarai so hat their names became Abraham and Sara. Abraham became the “father of many nations” and Sarah remained a “princess,” but now her children would carry the mark of heavens King. Covenant i about “two becoming one,” and the identities of the partners are shared. God showes his amazing commitment to his Covenant partners in the gift of the letters of His name.

 Ge 12:2 And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing:

Only God can make your name great. Rabbinical teachers of the old testament taught that this phrase “make thy name great” means “I will add the letter He to your name”

Whether that is true or not we cannot make our name great only God can.

So lets look at the covenant partners of this Abrahamic covenant with God.

We will first start with the Human side as it’s easier for us to relate.

Who are the Human covenant partners?

Abram and Sari and their offspring

 15 And God said unto Abraham, As for Sarai thy wife, thou shalt not call her name Sarai, but Sarah shall her name be. 16 And I will bless her, and give thee a son also of her: yea, I will bless her, and she shall be a mother of nations; kings of people shall be of her. 17 Then Abraham fell upon his face, and laughed, and said in his heart, Shall a child be born unto him that is an hundred years old? and shall Sarah, that is ninety years old, bear? 18 And Abraham said unto God, O that Ishmael might live before thee! 19 And God said, Sarah thy wife shall bear thee a son indeed; and thou shalt call his name Isaac: and I will establish my covenant with him for an everlasting covenant, and with his seed after him. 20 And as for Ishmael, I have heard thee: Behold, I have blessed him, and will make him fruitful, and will multiply him exceedingly; twelve princes shall he beget, and I will make him a great nation. 21 But my covenant will I establish with Isaac, which Sarah shall bear unto thee at this set time in the next year. 22 And he left off talking with him, and God went up from Abraham. Gen 17:15-22 (KJV)

Hagar was not in covenant relations with Abram, so Ishmael was not part of the covenant with God. Only Sari could give birth to a covenant partner. Ishmael didn’t have the identity of the covenant.

We have looked at the human side, now lets look at the God side of the covenant. How did God take on the identity of Abraham?

 31 And, behold, thou shalt conceive in thy womb, and bring forth a son, and shalt call his name JESUS. 32 He shall be great, and shall be called the Son of the Highest: and the Lord God shall give unto him the throne of his father David: 33 And he shall reign over the house of Jacob for ever; and of his kingdom there shall be no end. 34 Then said Mary unto the angel, How shall this be, seeing I know not a man? 35 And the angel answered and said unto her, The Holy Ghost shall come upon thee, and the power of the Highest shall overshadow thee: therefore also that holy thing which shall be born of thee shall be called the Son of God. Luke 1:31-35 (KJV)

Not only is Christ the Son of God, making Him God Seed of the Abrahamic covenant, He was born to a Abrahamic covenant daughter Mary, making His human side part of the covenant as well. Talk about shared identity.

14 That the blessing of Abraham might come on the Gentiles through Jesus Christ; that we might receive the promise of the Spirit through faith. 15 Brethren, I speak after the manner of men; Though it be but a man’s covenant, yet if it be confirmed, no man disannulleth, or addeth thereto. 16 Now to Abraham and his seed were the promises made. He saith not, And to seeds, as of many; but as of one, And to thy seed, which is Christ. 17 And this I say, that the covenant, that was confirmed before of God in Christ, the law, which was four hundred and thirty years after, cannot disannul, that it should make the promise of none effect. 18 For if the inheritance be of the law, it is no more of promise: but God gave it to Abraham by promise.
19 Wherefore then serveth the law? It was added because of transgressions, till the seed should come to whom the promise was made; and it was ordained by angels in the hand of a mediator. 20 Now a mediator is not a mediator of one, but God is one. 21 Is the law then against the promises of God? God forbid: for if there had been a law given which could have given life, verily righteousness should have been by the law. 22 But the scripture hath concluded all under sin, that the promise by faith of Jesus Christ might be given to them that believe. 23 But before faith came, we were kept under the law, shut up unto the faith which should afterwards be revealed. 24 Wherefore the law was our schoolmaster to bring us unto Christ, that we might be justified by faith. 25 But after that faith is come, we are no longer under a schoolmaster. 26 For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus. 27 For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ. 28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus. 29 And if ye be Christ’s, then are ye Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.
Gal 3:14-29 (KJV)

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I am first a daughter of the King of kings. Second, a help meet to my wonderful, hardworking husband. Third a mother to 9 beautiful girls and a handsome baby boy. I am also a Young Living Distributor.
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